The Cobbler's Son Finally Gets Shoes
Why I'm Changing How I (and STORYSMART®) Tell Stories

St. Louis, MO – May 1, 2026 –I talk a good game, but I haven’t been walking the walk when it comes to being STORYSMART® myself.
I’m “all hat, no horse,” to borrow a line from one of my favorite series, Heartland. In this post, I’m going to cowboy up to the fact that I’ve been the proverbial cobbler whose son has no shoes.
Not literally, of course. My son is flush with shoes, as evidenced by that 2022 thumbnail image of him. Imelda Marcos should be jealous. Today, at fifteen (or nearly 16, he would say), it is safe to say that Charlie has had more shoes than I’ve owned in my entire lifetime.
Yet, when you look at me, the analogy is spot on. I’m the cobbler in that frequently told story.
The Story of The Cobbler
We’ve all heard the story about the shoemakers’ children going barefoot. It is the classic tale about a skilled cobbler who spends all day crafting shoes for well-healed customers, but has no time or energy left to make shoes for his own children, leaving them shoeless.
According to Google AI, the legend first appeared in 1546 in John Heywood’s Dialogue of Proverbs. I expect that source material isn’t on your bookshelf either, but it has clearly stood the test of time, entering our collective lexicon and psyche.
The tale conveys the idea that those with specialized skills often neglect to apply them in their own lives. The story or saying lives in virtually every language around the world.
That idea of neglecting one’s own needs while serving others has come into focus for me in a profound way with my work this past year.
A Book, a Business and a Film
This time last year, I was finishing my first book.
I was deep in the final edits, working closely with my editor before handing it off for design.
At the same time, I was preparing to direct a documentary I had raised money to produce.
I was also running my day-to-day business, managing clients, developing projects, and keeping everything moving forward.
On paper, it all looked aligned.
The book laid out my philosophy. The film was an opportunity to put that philosophy into practice. The business was supposed to support both.
But over the last year, it didn’t feel that way.
It felt scattered. Disjointed. Like I was moving in multiple directions at once without a clear center of gravity.
I was busy, but not always effective.
Productive, but not always making progress on what mattered most.
I was operating in a way that didn’t fully reflect what I had devoted an entire book to teaching.
STORYSMART® Storytelling for ALL®
Last year, I wrote a 300-plus-page book on how to take control of your story. How to own it. How to protect it. How to structure it in a way that allows you to participate in the value it creates instead of giving it away.
At its core, the book is a blueprint for a different approach to storytelling. One that is rights-first and highly collaborative. One that is designed to benefit everyone involved, not just the gatekeepers who traditionally control the process.
That idea is personal for me. I’ve never been comfortable with systems in which access determines outcomes. Where one group operates with a different set of rules than everyone else. You see it in a lot of industries, but it’s especially pronounced in storytelling.
Some people know how the system works. Most don’t.
And when you don’t understand how it works, it’s easy to give away something valuable without realizing it. That’s what I’ve spent years trying to address.
The “for all” in STORYSMART® isn’t a tagline. It’s a point of view.
If something is a good idea—if it creates real value—it shouldn’t be reserved for a small group of insiders. It should be accessible to the people whose stories drive the work.
Because the truth is, some of the most compelling stories don’t belong to people with access. They belong to people who have lived something meaningful, but don’t have the resources, knowledge, or connections to bring it to life the right way.
That gap matters.
In the book, I lay out a simple principle: if a story has value, the people who bring it to life should share in that value.
That includes the storytellers. It includes the people who lived the story. And it includes the collaborators who help turn it into something that can reach an audience.
That’s the model I believe in.
It’s collaborative.
It’s practical.
It’s ethical.
And most importantly, it aligns incentives to produce better work.
It is both who and how.
But as I stepped back and looked at how I was operating, I had to admit something that didn’t sit comfortably. I wasn’t fully applying that model to my own business, starting with myself.
How You See Yourself in a Story Matters
For most of my life, I’ve seen myself as a supporting cast member in someone else’s story. The B-list actor you recognize, but whose name you can’t quite place.
Not the lead. Not the person in the spotlight. The person behind the scenes. The one helping move things forward. The one making sure the story works.
That role has served me well.
It’s given me steady work. It’s given me purpose. And in many ways, it shaped how I built my business. I was comfortable being the advisor. The collaborator. The person you bring in to help tell the story the right way.
I didn’t need to be the face of it. If I’m being honest, I preferred not to be.
As an introvert, I don’t like the spotlight. I’m uncomfortable in the limelight.
I’ve always been more comfortable “leading from the back of the room.” Supporting the person out front. Building the team. Making sure the pieces come together. That approach worked for me for a long time.
It also influenced how I positioned STORYSMART®.
Instead of selling myself, I sold the team. Instead of stepping forward, I stayed behind the work. The pitch was simple: hire us, and we’ll help you tell your story the right way.
For a while, that worked. But over time, I started to see the limitations.
When you consistently place yourself in a supporting role, you’re also placing yourself in a position where someone else is making the final decisions. You’re dependent on their willingness to move forward. Their comfort with risk. Their understanding of what’s required.
And when those things aren’t aligned, the work stalls. Or it never happens at all. Looking back, I can see that this wasn’t just a business decision. It reflected how I saw myself.
I was more comfortable helping someone else be the lead than stepping into that role myself. There’s nothing inherently wrong with that. But if your goal is to build something sustainable, something that creates long-term value, you can’t always stay in the background.
At some point, you must step forward. That’s the shift I’ve been resisting more than I realized. Then, last spring, two experiences brought all of that into focus at once.
The Long Road to Anagnorisis
Aristotle coined the literary term “anagnorisis” to describe the moment in a story plot when we recognize a character’s true identity, or when the character realizes the truth about our own circumstances. These typically result in a reversal of fortune.
When it happens, things change. Sometimes gradually. Sometimes all at once.
For me, it happened twice within a few weeks.
I had invested years of work into two separate projects. In both cases, I thought I understood the people involved. I thought I understood where things were headed. I thought I was in control.
I was wrong.
The First Anagnorisis
The first situation involved a prospective client I had been working to engage for nearly two years. The opportunity came through someone close to me, which made the process feel more promising than most.
It didn’t move quickly. To the contrary, it took seven months and several tries just to get the initial meeting on the calendar.
Then another eight months to move from proposal to what I believed was final approval through their board process. By late summer, I was told they were all in. I was asked to send a contract. I did.
From there, everything slowed down.
I was told the agreement would be signed by year’s end so we could begin work in the new year. That didn’t happen. As the calendar turned, I was asked to meet with a board member.
I spent a couple of hours with him. It was an odd conversation. We were talking yet not really connecting. I answered his questions. I took notes. I made sure he understood what the project required and what I needed from them to move forward.
Before I left, I was clear. I told him I was a small business. I was holding time to do the work. I needed a decision soon.
He assured me they planned to sign the contract and pay the deposit, but something didn’t feel right.
Weeks passed.
My follow-up went unanswered.
Eventually, I learned that the same person I had met with was actively trying to shut down the project.
I called his boss. I was told everything was still moving forward. It wasn’t.
More time passed. Communication stalled. The person who had made the original introduction stepped back. I could feel it. The support wasn’t there anymore. He was washing his hands of it.
At a certain point, I had to accept what was happening. I sent a diplomatic note communicating that I’d still like to work with them, but that they'd need to get back to me soon if they wanted my help. Otherwise, I would need to withdraw and move on. No response.
What struck me most wasn’t just that the deal fell apart.
It was that I had gotten to “yes” multiple times, but never to a real commitment. It isn’t real until the contract is signed and the deposit is paid.
Everyone talks about getting to “yes,” but I couldn’t get to “No”.
What was wrong with me?
I had spent two years chasing something that was never fully in my control.
At the time, it felt like a big loss. Financially, it was. I was relying on that work, given their repeated promises. In hindsight, it was really a gift.
Because through that process, I was connected to other sources tied to the underlying story. That opened the door to developing the true crime series independently.
That was the first big insight: I didn’t need them to tell the story. There is a much more efficient way to tell that story.
The Second Anagnorisis
The second situation hit even closer to home.
It involved a friend I had been trying to help for years. His father had a remarkable story, and for five years, we explored different ways to bring it to life.
At first, I tried to get him to hire me to structure it so he would own the work. He didn’t want to make that investment. So, we kept exploring.
We developed a screenplay for a short film. When he changed his mind about that, we pivoted back to a documentary. We paused. We restarted. For four years, it was a constant cycle of progress and reset.
Eventually, in the fall of 2024, I decided I would move forward and build the project myself as an independent documentary. I assembled a team. Developed the concept.
With my friends’ complete blessing and full support, I applied for and secured grant funding.
That changed everything. We had a deadline. We had momentum. We were moving.
At one point during the grant application phase, my friend said he would invest alongside me. When the time came, he told me he couldn’t. His business was struggling.
He told me to move forward without him, saying he trusted me to do right by him and his family.
I took him at his word. I moved forward. I invested my own time and my own money. I brought in a team. I committed to the project. I structured it so that he and his family could participate financially if there was any upside.
As the project evolved, so did our roles. What started as me trying to help him as a work-for-hire became something I was now responsible for leading. That shift created tension.
The moment that brought it all into focus came the day before our first shoot.
I sent him the standard interview and location agreements. Documents I’ve used for years. Routine, from my perspective. From his perspective, they weren’t.
He called me so angry that his hostility toward me caught me off guard. In ten years of knowing him, I had never seen that side of him.
The conversation escalated quickly. It was intense. Emotional. Confrontational.
Underneath his words and tone, there was something clear. He wasn’t grateful. He didn’t trust me. I was hurt.
That was the clarifying moment. Not just because of what he said, but because of what it revealed. We were looking at the same situation from completely different places.
From his point of view, signing those documents felt like giving something away. Losing control of his father’s story. From my point of view, they were necessary to make the project possible.
I was blunt with him. If he didn’t trust us to do the work, we should stop.
Even though I had invested a lot of time and personal money, we hadn’t spent the grant money yet. We could walk away.
I told him it wasn’t worth losing a friendship over. I also made it clear to him that I’m not willing to be treated like a bad guy for helping him.
At that point, given all my work and emotional investment, I was exhausted and more than ready to pull the plug.
He pushed back, telling me not to “catastrophize” it. But I wasn’t. He was.
I was one recognizing the reality of the situation.
Without his cooperation and consent, there was no film. We had talked about this dozens of times before, but it was clear that intellectual understanding isn’t the same as emotional acceptance.
We talked it through again. He calmed down. He agreed to move forward, promising me that he would sign all necessary consents for the film.
I chose to take him at his word and move forward with producing the film, but that moment has stayed with me. Because it forced me to see something I hadn’t fully acknowledged before.
I had spent five years trying to help him own his story. Then I stepped in, took on responsibility for producing it, and assumed we were aligned. We weren’t. Not in the way the project required.
As I reflect on this a year later, I can see that both anagnorisis experiences revealed the same issue from different angles.
I was building my business in a way that left me dependent on other people to make critical decisions, decisions tied to time, money, trust, and ownership. And when those decisions didn’t align, everything stalled. That’s when it became crystal clear.
The Real Problem is The Model
As I stepped back from those two experiences, I forced myself to look at them clearly.
It would have been easy to blame the individuals involved. To chalk it up to difficult personalities, bad timing, or misunderstandings.
But that wouldn’t have been honest. And it wouldn’t have been useful.
The problem wasn’t just them. The problem was the business model I was operating in.
When you position yourself as a vendor, you are, by definition, downstream from the decision-making. You are dependent on someone else to say yes. To move forward. To commit. When the stakes get real, when money is involved, when rights are on the table, when the story starts to feel bigger than expected, that’s when hesitation creeps in.
That’s when people pull back. Or change the terms. Or start to see things differently than they did when it was all theoretical.
And if you’re the one doing the work, investing the time, bringing the team together, carrying the creative and logistical burden, but you don’t have control, and you are exposed. You’re taking on risk without the authority to manage it. That’s not a people problem. That’s a structural problem.
I realized that I had built a business that relied on other people to make decisions that, if I truly believed what I said in my book, I should have been making myself. I was asking others to step into ownership while keeping myself in a position where I didn’t fully own the outcome.
There’s a balance here that I’ve always believed in. Being selfish is short-sighted. It burns bridges and erodes trust. But being too selfless, consistently putting yourself in a position where you carry the weight without sharing in the control or upside, is not sustainable either.
At some point, you must align your structure with your philosophy. I hadn’t done that yet. Rather than acting as the navigator guiding someone else, I should be driving the bus.
The Shift: Start Driving the Bus
Once I saw it, I couldn’t unsee it.
If I were serious about ownership, real ownership, then I needed to change how I was operating. Not tweak it. Do not refine it. Change it entirely. The business model and me.
That meant stepping out of the role of vendor and into the role of creator and producer in a much more definitive way.
It meant that instead of waiting for someone to hire me to tell their story, I would take responsibility for selecting the stories worth telling.
I would do the work to properly develop them. I would assemble the right team. I would raise the capital when needed. And I would drive the process forward.
That doesn’t mean doing it alone. It means leading it.
It also means being selective in a different way. Not every story is the right story. Not every person is the right partner.
Alignment matters more than access. If someone approaches the process from a place of control, entitlement, or short-term thinking, it won't work. Not in a way that produces something meaningful or sustainable.
So that becomes part of the model.
We only work with people who share our values.
People who understand that storytelling at a high level is a collaborative process. People who respect the roles involved and the work required to bring a story to life.
If that alignment is there, we can build something powerful together. If it’s not, we walk away. That’s a very different posture than trying to convince someone to hire you. It’s also a much more honest one.
The Model We Are Building
We are building a modern, rights-first, independent storytelling studio that originates, develops, and produces true story IP in collaboration with creators, investors, and those who lived those stories.
Our approach differs from the traditional Hollywood model by equitably aligning storytelling, ownership, and long-term value from day one.
The shift I’m making isn’t just about control for its own sake. It’s about building a model that reflects my belief about how this work should be done.
At its core, that means respecting everyone involved in the process. Writers, directors, editors, cinematographers, story participants—everyone contributes something essential. And if the project creates value, that value should be shared in a way that reflects those contributions.
That’s what a non-exploitative model looks like in practice. Not everyone gets the same outcome, but everyone is treated fairly, transparently, and with respect for their role.
At the same time, I’m not interested in building something that ignores the business's economic reality. This is not a hobby. This is not a passion project in the sense of working for free and hoping it all works out.
This is about building a company that makes money. It is also about building a company that creates sustainable, rewarding careers for its people. Finally, it is about building a company capable of taking calculated risks to invest in developing a body of work that has lasting value.
That requires structure. It requires discipline. It requires making decisions that aren’t always easy in the moment but are necessary in the long run.
What I’m building is a model where values and economics are not in conflict. They reinforce each other. When people are aligned, when expectations are clear, when incentives are structured properly, you don’t just get better outcomes financially, you get better work.
What This Means Going Forward
If I believe that owning your story matters, then I must build in a way that reflects that belief.
I need to cowboy up, put on my boots, and saddle that horse.
I can’t outsource that responsibility to someone else and expect the result to align with what I’ve been teaching.
That changes how I work. It changes the kinds of projects I pursue. It changes how those projects are structured and the nature of the relationships involved.
This can’t be a transactional model. It’s not “hire me, and I’ll deliver the finished product.”
It’s collaborative, but it’s also defined. Roles must be clear. Expectations are set up front. Ownership and participation are aligned with contribution and risk.
That clarity matters.
For creators, I think there’s a broader takeaway. If you’re building your career around your ability to create value, you must think carefully about where you sit in the process.
Are you always being brought in after the key decisions are made?
Or are you putting yourself in a position to shape those decisions?
For public figures, families, and anyone with a story that matters, the lesson is similar. Ownership comes with responsibility. It requires trust. It requires a willingness to engage in the process and respect the people doing the work.
There isn’t a shortcut around that.
But when it’s done right, the result is something far more meaningful and valuable than what you get from a purely transactional approach.
The Cobblers Son Finally Gets Shoes
I keep coming back to that idea of the cobbler.
It is simple and obvious.
If you have a skill, a craft, a way of thinking that you believe in, it must show up in your own life first. Not perfectly. Not all at once. But in a way that’s real.
For me, that means building a business that reflects what I’ve been saying all along.
Taking control where it matters. Structuring things the right way. Sharing the upside where it’s earned. And doing work with people you respect who understand what that requires.
That’s the standard I want to hold myself to.
Because if I’m going to tell people to take control of their story, protect their rights, and build something of value, then I must be willing to do the same.
Otherwise, I’m just the cobbler making shoes for everyone else.
About Our STORYSMART® Perspective
We approach storytelling and filmmaking as a long-term, rights-first business rather than a project-by-project creative exercise.
Our focus is on understanding how stories create value over time through ownership, disciplined development, and thoughtful risk management.
The ideas shared here are intended to contribute to a broader conversation about sustainable, independent media, not to promote specific projects or investment opportunities.
